Let’s start off this blog with a BAM, right before we entered 2015 I broke up with my long time boyfriend of 5 years. PHEW
I don’t want to bore you with the details, but let’s just say it involved a broken down car, towing company, and alcohol.
I can’t blame it all on the car or the booze, this thing was long time in the making. Basically we spent too much time with each other and frankly both of us were becoming bored. He was moving away to another state while I have my heel designing job I can’t leave. I am going somewhere in life while he has been a bum for too long.
I do not exaggerate when I say…
it was time for a change.
We think that best moments in life is when we get the relationship, or the job, or the car we want, but really those only bring us fleeting comfort. The best moments in life are often wrapped in some kind of trauma. We realize they were the best moments only in hindsight, when we are in these life changing experiences it is often uncomfortable and unpleasant. It’s not till later on we realize the true value, I believe this is why we call these
“blessing in disguise”
and let me assure you this break up thing was no different. I had dread for a while, basically because I was afraid of being single again. After being in a relationship for 5 years, you grow accustomed to it. And humans grow comfort in one situation and we sort of not just stay at that level but slowly slide down in power, intelligence, and sexiness because we are no longer pushing ourselves and we get lazy. I have found this to be incredibly true, and painstakingly so.
I noticed that my relationship was actually slowing me down in my profession. I would be at work designing my newest heels but part of me is still thinking about a dumb fight I had the night before with my boyfriend.
It was time for a change.
I don’t want to go into the details but there was an incident that broke the camel’s back as they say.
We were getting ready for new years and having few drinks, my boyfriend decides to take his buddies out to get more drinks which I adamantly try to stop. But they weren’t having it and turned out 10 min after their trip they were pulled over by a police. Long story short they got my car towed and they went to jail for drunk driving. Enough was enough, I didn’t even want to bail him at this point. I called it quits and broke up. That was the end of that, I haven’t talked to him since.
I celebrated New Years with just me and my roommate and we decided to make new goals for ourselves in 2015.
- don’t date a dumb guy ever again
- get back into shape
- design 1 new heel per month
- save money for Euro trip
- make new group of friends
a simple list that I wrote down on paper and stuck on the wall of my room, right above my computer that way I can look at it each and every day.
I am ready for a new life, although it can be a bit traumatic at first, I know deep in my heart everything happened for the best, so now after couple weeks I am over it and can talk about it and blog.
I am ready for the new life.
Let me know what resolution or changes you are making this upcoming year.
Happy New Years!